ABOUT MARRIAGE: ROLES AND DUTIES OF PARTNERS

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March 25th, 2009 |
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By working out your respective duties, in general principle, this will also solve once and for all who is “boss.” Now every working unit must have a head. That is undoubted. But in the marital game, things are different today from what they were a few years ago.

In some instances, because of the personality types involved, one person may appear to be the dominant partner. The other one may automatically tend to be more submissive. There is nothing wrong with either, for a submissive outward character is not necessarily a weakling. Neither is an aggressive, apparent born leader necessarily just that either. Often the bombastic, vocal person is all talk and easily deflated, and deep down this is his/her subconscious way of trying to boost his/her own ego, and get noticed in the world. In a sense it may be his/her “ego-tripping method.”

Frequently it is best if there is no boss, in the true sense of the word. Rather, a workable partnership is far more happy and peaceful. Often these are the family units that tend to stay together and last longer than the other type.

Actually there is no hard-and-fast rule about all this. Some units may find it more satisfactory if one tends to make the decisions, and act as the leader of the team. One may prefer this. Conversely, if both have an equal say, and if each respects the opinions of the other, this is often the most rewarding and, in the long run, the most satisfactory arrangement.

A marriage deal is a fifty-fifty arrangement. The role of the wife can be extremely important, even before there are any children involved. Through her ability, attitudes, opinions, she can wield an enormous influence. Often women who are quietly spoken are very forceful in their own way. The words they speak, and the attitudes they reveal can have an enormous on-going effect on the total home picture. A husband should never underestimate the power of a woman. He who does is a fool!

At the same time, the influence of the husband can be major. Expressing his feelings, attitudes and opinions can also have a major influence on the home, both before as well as after children arrive. Wives are well advised to listen to what their husbands have to say, and take note, for often (believe it or not), what they say makes sense. Not always, certainly, but often. Frequently their ideas can be tempered with added ideas from the wife, and the final composite picture can be a rewarding one for the family unit.

Any partner who thinks he or she is always right is also heading for trouble. In this world, nobody is right all the time. In fact, experience has shown (as we can all remember if we look back on life), that in a great number of cases, probably the majority, ideas and thoughts we expressed at one time, feeling we were 100 per cent right, later turned out to be extremely foolish and unsuccessful notions.

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