The wife keeps trying to excite the husband until she finds something that works. Then she stops, smiles, and says, “Later. Your turn.”
He proceeds with his part of the experiment. “Does this excite you?” he asks, sucking her nipples. “Not really.”
“How about this?” Licking someplace else. “Not really.”
“And this?” Blowing in her ear. “Not really.”
He continues until he does find something that works, in the process overcoming his own blocks to wanting to please his wife.
When they have both found something that pleases the other, they begin the next phase—which is to mutually please each other. Again, they should conduct this phase with an attitude of scientific interest. Something may excite them for a moment, then cease to excite them. They must continue to adapt, continue to look for other ways, and never become hurt or annoyed or impatient. Eventually, they will arouse one another to a point where intercourse is possible. After intercourse, they should have a discussion about what they felt and why.
Incidentally: A variation on this game might be called “The Challenge.” In this version, the interested spouse challenges the uninterested spouse by saying, “I’ll bet I can arouse your sexual interest.” The uninterested spouse will of course gladly accept the challenge, seeing it as an opportunity to act out spite. Whether or not the interested spouse can win the challenge, this version can be used as a means of discussing the uninterested spouse’s spite and his or her need to resist sexual arousal (seemingly at all costs).
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