He guides her into the bedroom, which has been converted into the bedroom beautiful. It is bathed in hazy dimness, incense is burning, soft music is playing, and one pink light highlights the bed—which is covered with satin sheets. And what is that scattered lavishly on those sheets? Rose petals. Hundreds and hundreds of rose petals. The bed is covered from headboard to footboard with them. They are everywhere! Red, yellow, pink, and white rose petals.
“What’s this?” the wife may ask.
“Rose petals for my rose.”
“I can’t believe you. Where did you get this idea?” “Oh, from a silly little book I found at the bookstore.” “I want to see that book.” “Later. Let me help you off with your clothes.” “This is too much.”
The rose petals usually soften even the angriest heart—and when the heart softens, the body follows. The husband should sieze the opportunity to shower the wife with a very attentive and caring dose of lovemaking, doing the things he knows will make her happy. He can utilize the rose petals, grasping them in his hands and letting them fall on her breasts and belly button. He can do fanciful things, covering her eyes with petals and then kissing the petals. He can also cover parts of his own body with them. (In the event that the wife is so hard-hearted that even the rose petals do not soften her, the husband may use the occasion to discuss what this means about their relationship.)
For most, the lovemaking will be a revelation. After the wife has gotten over her shock, she may be surprised by the kinds of thoughts and feelings—ranging from fear to sadness to envy—that are aroused by the experience. The husband, by letting go of his own resistance, will likewise find that trying to please, rather than distance, his wife arouses new feelings in him. These new thoughts and feelings will lead to a new self-awareness and ability to communicate.
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